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The other measured love attitudes are Eros, Ludus, Pragma, Mania and Agape.
Storge (stor-ghay; from Ancient Greek στοργή (storgḗ) ‘love, affection’), or familial love, refers to natural or instinctual affection, such as the love of a parent towards offspring and vice versa.
Storge is a wide-ranging love force which can apply between family members, friends, pets and their owners, companions or colleagues; it can also blend with and help underpin other types of ties, such as passionate love or friendship. Thus “storge” may function as a general term to characterize the love between exceptional friends and their desire to care compassionately for one another.What is Storge?
Sometimes the term is used to refer to the love between married partners who are committed and plan to have a long relationship together, particularly as a fundamental relational foundation after initial infatuation (limerence).
Another interpretation for storge is to be used to describe a sexual relationship between two people that gradually grew out of a friendship—storgic lovers sometimes cannot pinpoint the moment that friendship turned to love. Storgic lovers are friends first; the friendship and the storge can endure even beyond the breakup of the sexual relationship. They want their significant others to also be their best friends and will choose their mates based on similar goals and interests—homogamy. Storgic lovers place much importance on commitment and find that their motivation to avoid committing infidelity is to preserve the trust between the two partners. Children and marriage are seen as legitimate long-term aims for their bond, while passionate sexual intensity is of lesser importance than in other love styles.
Friendship is unnecessary, like philosophy, like art.... It has no survival value; rather it is one of those things which give value to survival.
The Role of Storge in Relationships
The advantages of storgic love may be how much storgic lovers love their own families and understand each other. In addition, two people who are deeply devoted to one another can feel the intimacy that they share
Storge cultural examples
Examples of Storge can be seen in movies including Love & Basketball, When Harry Met Sally…, and Zack and Miri Make a Porno.
Storge recognizable traits
A person with a high level of Storge attitude towards love:
- Is not looking for love but is ready if encountered.
- Quietly possessive but not overly jealous.
- Believes love comes from friendship but not a goal of life.
- Only has sexual desires after commitment is declared.
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References
- “storge”. CollinsDictionary.com. HarperCollins.
- Hooper, Walter (1996). C. S. Lewis: A Companion & Guide. p. 369-70.
- Strong B, Yarber WL, Sayad BW, Devault C (2008). Human sexuality: diversity in contemporary America (6th ed.). New York: McGraw-Hill. p. 228. ISBN 978-0-07-312911-2
